Are you really choosing?
The silent excuses that shapes our lives
I was talking with a co worker when a word she said triggered a train of thought, she said that she wanted to travel the world but the fact that her husband does not like to travel non tourist areas its stopping her from living out her dreams and it got me thinking.
What would her life look like if she wasn’t married? Does she regret being married? If she wasn’t married would she actually travel the world? Or would there be something else that is stopping her?
These questions clouded my head for hours and it got me thinking about my own life when I’m at home I have no desire to go anywhere alone even when there’s no limitations or nothing stopping me but then when I don’t have my car I often say to myself I want to go somewhere but I can’t because I don’t have my car.
When we dream big or dream of another life we often set limitations on ourselves as a form of excuse to keep us in our bubble, to keep us comfortable instead of working hard and going after what we actually want.
We do this to not awake uncomfortable situations or feelings but by setting limitations we are putting ourselves in a box that we want to get out of but we unknowingly build it bigger and harder to get out of.
Blaming your partner as to why your life is the way it is, will only cause resentment towards your partner. Ask yourself this question if you weren’t with your partner would you actually go for it? If the answer to that is yes, then get rid of the limitations you are setting on yourself and find a way to make your dream happen. And if you want the answer to be yes then find a way to do it.